I have been reflecting on the research published yesterday into sexual harassment in the workplace. My co-author Tim Scott recently shared his thoughts on the same research here.
The report, entitled ‘Still Just a Bit of Banter?’, makes horrific reading. In 2016. At all. I’ve blogged previously about the word banter. It is a dangerous word. It reduces and minimises and trivialises what horrors some people have to go through just to earn a living.
If you put the word ‘banter’ into a Thesaurus this is what you will find…… Teasing. Joking. Wit. Repartee.
Try this example from the report and see if any of those words sound even vaguely representative.
‘On my last day at work, my colleague told me that his biggest regret was that he didn’t get chance to rape me’.
Or this one.
‘In front of all his friends he groped my breasts’.
Banter this ain’t.
After reading this report, the questions that are running through my mind are these…..
How does an organisational culture get to this place?
How does this behaviour become part of the day to day?
How does this stuff happen in 2016?
Why, when harassment and offensive language, behaviour and so-called ‘banter’ takes place, do people stand by and watch it happen?
Because whilst some harassment goes on behind closed doors and out of sight, not all of it does. The report says so, and I know it for myself as someone who has both experienced it early in my career, and from dealing with it as a HR professional.
There is no one single answer to those questions I’m reflecting on.
It’s about what is permissible in an organisation. What is acceptable and tolerated. It is about the behaviour of leaders and the message that sends. It is about the extent to which it is safe to disagree and to challenge.
Another unrelated article makes a similar point. The writer reflects on an organisation in which the C word, that most offensive of swear words, is so common place it has become barely noticeable to those that work there.
When you work in an organisation, especially for a long time, it is all too easy to fail to see what might be out of place or downright wrong within its culture. To see beyond what just happens around here and fail to ask if that is actually ok. To go with the flow.
Ask most people what they would do if they witnesses an act of harassment in the workplace and you will no doubt get a reassuring answer. They would report it. They would help the person being harassed. They would say something to the perpetrator. But the evidence from this report, and indeed what we know about how our brains work, is that they don’t or won’t or can’t.
How does a culture go bad? In lots of ways.
Slowly. Incrementally. One tiny step at a time. Through poor leadership. Through lack of challenge. Through inertia. Through simply not seeing. The Ostrich effect. The bystander effect.
Through all of the biases.
Culture is a boiling frog.
You have two choices when it comes to culture. You are either part of it, condoning or accepting. Or you stand against it, for something else entirely.
And if we truly want to end harassment at work, then each of us need to stand up and be counted when the time comes.